Our domestic helper who joined us in November is giving me a headache.....
Last week hubby heard Keane crying very loudly in the shower. When he went to check out the cries, he saw long red marks on Keane's forearms. Keane said auntie pinched him. Apparently she grabbed his forearm very hard and squeezed it extremely hard. She then tried to cover up the marks with powder. Hubby questioned her and she admitted to hurting my son after he hit her. Call me biased but that's no reason to cause hurt to a 4 year old kid. Keane may be stubborn and because his communication skill is weaker, he can test our patience at times. But she still shouldn't have squeezed his arm so hard. I tested it on myself and found that only a very hard squeeze could leave such a clear a mark on my arm. And for the mark to stay on long enough for my hubby to ask questions and take photos, it must have been painful.
Hubby gave her a verbal lashing about how she was not supposed to do that. A couple of months ago we found a very big scratch mark, probably caused by something other than a finger nail, on Keane's shoulder. He told us that auntie scratched him. She denied it when confronted. That time hubby gave her a warning that we don't want her to physically hurt our kids. She cannot cane them or beat them. If they are naughty, she has to inform us and we will discipline them. And trust me, we do discipline them. It's a combination of scolding, caning and quiet time on the balcony. Not so quiet time. More like 10 minutes of mummy's nagging.
So this incident really pissed us off. Coupled with the fact that she was caught lying about her mobile phone. Initially when we fetched her from the agent, we asked if she had a mobile phone. She said she didn't. A couple of months later, Xavier saw her on a mobile phone, sending SMS. When we asked her about it, she denied it. A few weeks later hubby saw her talking on the mobile. She then said she lied because she didn't want us to confiscate her phone. He told her that she has to do all the housework before she uses her phone. When he caught her with it, the housework was not done. Thereafter, she began to start going to her room around 8pm, off the lights and start using her phone in the dark. There were several occasions when she would doze off during the day due to lack of sleep from using the phone till late at night. We know that because there are times when I went to her room to take something from my cupboard and see her mobile phone light in the darkness. The latest trend is for her to do housework while talking on the phone or listening to radio on her mobile.
I called the agent last week and informed that I wanted to find a replacement. The agent sales representative was not very enthusiastic about helping us find one. She asked me to go on the Internet to look through the bio data before giving her a call. I saw 2 that I thought were suitable and she ended up giving me the telephone numbers to interview them myself when I requested for an interview. The best part was that the numbers were not valid!!! The person who answered the phone was not the same as on the bio-data. The other one was not in use.
Am I destined to have domestic helper woes most of the time????? Help!
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